Ending Your Relationship And Then Beginning Again – Will It Work?
Breaking apart and getting back together, can it work? That is a question that a great deal of people ask. It is not uncommon to break up with someone and later be sorry for the breakup and try to get back together. The question is, will it work? The answer is, this will depend…
It depends on many elements. Below is a list of some things you have to honestly think about before you get back together with your ex lover:
1) Why did you separate in the first place? If you broke up because of major variations in your outlooks and personalities and found that you were constantly clashing then getting back together would be a bad idea.
Neither of you will be able to totally alter your personality. Nor should you. If you’re just not compatible that won’t change. It’s time to move on and find somebody you are more in sync with.
2) If the reason you broke up was fairly minor daily problems you have to decide if either of you are willing, and have the ability, to honestly talk about it and make the changes necessary to make the relationship work. If you think that the two of you are mature enough to have a truthful discussion of the issues and work on fixing them then you might be able to make it work this time around.
3) Was there cheating or abuse? For the most part, if either of these issues were present you’re probably better off finding someone new. Most people today don’t really change to a substantial degree. If you or your ex is a cheater that pattern will more than likely carry on unless extensive therapy is undertaken.
If abuse is the issue no one should be given a second chance to hit or injure you again. Leave, and don’t look back. Hopefully your former mate will get help and have the ability to overcome the problem but that type of treatment isn’t always successful and could take years – it is time for you to move on for good.
Splitting up and getting back together, for the most part, can only be achieved if you and your ex can be totally honest with yourself and each other. It’s not impossible to make adjustments but it can be challenging and unless both parties are in complete agreement and are committed to making the positive adjustments needed to make the relationship work, it is probably better to call it quits and move ahead.
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